Monday, March 17, 2008

Why all the yelling?

Most days don't go the way I intend them to. Someone inevitably erks me in some way or another. I get so tired of being an angry person. I just want all the anger to go away.

I believe that generational sin is a real thing. I question why I have to be the one to stop it? Why do I have to be the one who does all the hard work?

I am certain that my tongue has screwed my kids up in some way. And I just want it to stop. But, why do I have to change while everyone else in the house appears to stay the same?

This is what I heard when I questioned the Lord, "Someone has to be willing, right? You are the adult here."

Okay then God, here I am. I don't want to feel this way anymore. I want my family to be peaceful. I want their resting place to be relaxing, a place to de-stress from the outside world. Help me Lord through your word. Help me to realize that I don't have to get angry anymore. You have given us your scripture, which is God breathed, and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness (2 Timothy3:16). Help me to understand that there is no need to yell. Help me to implement your word into our everyday lives so that we may have some peace. Your word will give me all the wisdom and power that I need. In Jesus' name, Amen


Jenifer said...

Ok. You just stomped all over my feet. Whoa! Girl, I am right there with you. My tongue can get the best of me. Several years ago I was doing a Bible Study on our speech and how it affects those around us. I had so been praying for God to control my tongue and use it for His glory. One night, my husband and I began "discussing" something and the conversation wasn't going the way I thought it should go. I opened my mouth to say something that wasn't going to be respectful to my husband or glorifying to God and would you know, that God made my tongue swell up so big and so fast that I thought I was going to choke to death. He got my attention that night.

I find myself so often wondering why in the world I just said what I said, especially to those I love the most. It is so hard. I am constantly praying Psalm 19:14, "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O LORD, my strength and my Redeemer." Ya know, it all goes back to the condition of our heart. "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life." (Proverbs 4:23)

I'll pray for you if you'll pray for me in this area. We can keep each other accountable to use our tongues to speak only words that will build up others and meet their needs (Ephesians 4:29)

Love ya girl,

Joanne said...

This touched my generational heart. ;O)

My anger can set fire to a wet match. There are even a few times I have had to pray that my children forget an outburst of mine.

Hang in there. These mistakes when brought to the throne are covered by God's grace and can be amazing tools in God's hands. Asking our children for forgiveness is a pretty humbling thing for a parent to do.

Praying for us all!

Warmly, Joanne

kmom3 said...

Dear Sweet Cheri!
If you lived close to me, I would have you over, we would drink some coffee (or whatever you like), and we would pray right then and there for each other. I understand this struggle. With all of my heart I do. I am praying scripture right now myself, believing that with God ALL things are possible, even the taming of my tongue.
I even asked Him one day not very long ago to please show me why I am so angry. And He is beginning to reveal some things to me and is healing some places.
I will be praying for you as well! May both of our homes be peaceful dwelling places. Secure homes. Places of undistrubed rest! (Carol gave me that verse one time. Is. 32:18)
Love you!

Stephanie (Ocean Mommy) said...

Yep, I get this post big time. :)

My prayer from the time I became a fulltime homemaker has been that home would be a haven for our family and for anyone else who stepped foot inside the door. But yet, I still struggle with my tone!

oh, and NO that wasn't me singing. It is a clip from a Women of Faith Conference.

Carol said...

I'm with you on this one. I try so hard and yet sometimes I need a muzzle or maybe just a stapler to staple my mouth shut! It is a constant battle to say the right things. It is a choice you make before you get angry. I love you!

Laurie Adams said...

Great post today.

A few years ago God showed me that our home is the one place that my family should be able to come and find "refuge", meaning that out in the world at school and at the office, my family gets beat up and worn out and when they walk thru the front door the last thing they need is confusion, anger, and unsettling.

It takes one person to implement this setting and it may as well start with me. It took a real big effort for me, but I started to prepare for my families arrival at the end of the day by clearing everything out of my path so I could greet my family with no stress.

It is amazing how such a little effort made a huge difference in our moods as we ended our day.

Blessings, Laurie

Christina said...

I'm pretty sure most of us struggle with this one. I think this is one a lot of women struggle with. I can be a yeller a lot of the time. This is a hard habit to break. I also have a hard time holding my tongue although I have gotten a little better at it. I will pray for you and for myself tonight. I always pray for my anger issues so I will just add you right in there with me.

Cassie said...

I am so with you on this one...My tongue can get the best of me...Thanks for your post...great one...

MaryLu said...

Ouch, I have the same problem at my house, what is with that anger? Why is it that I can be so cheerful and pleasant to perfect strangers but to my children--not so much.
Thank you for sharing your heart and letting the rest of us know we are not alone.
Maybe Carol is right, I just need to carry around my stapler and close it tightly every once in a while!